Have you ever heard a piece of advice or words of wisdom that was particularly impactful and stuck with you for a long time? Last week, we asked several men to tell us about their father’s advice and they shared something along the lines of: “Always tell the truth,” “If you want to eat, you are going to have to work,” “Believe in yourself,” “Make prayer a priority,” and “You will never regret having a good education.” There’s a variety of advice that has a lasting impact from “It is always nice to be nice” to “Take life day by day.” Advice is an interesting thing…for example – “Figure out what you love to do, and then figure out how to get someone to pay you to do it.” I don’t know who shared this advice, but it’s good.
Sometimes, it takes just a simple statement to motivate you or help you see more clearly. For most of us, our moms and dads helped us through tough times and they may have shared some helpful advice along the way. As kids we don’t always pay attention, it is not until later years that we understand their inspiring words. Those profound words – “Never give up” were incredibly important to our lives. What about – “Tell your brother that you are sorry.” Whether it’s from grandma, our parents or a friend, good advice helped us build relationships, find happiness and it sticks with us. We are probably putting some of this incredible advice into practice with our children and grandchildren.
Here is another great piece of advice:
Listening is Very Different from Hearing
“The best piece of advice ever imparted to me comes from my mom, who is fond of saying ‘What you say matters less than what people hear and understand.’ As a teacher, she was a brilliant listener, and she used what she heard to build a bridge between what she needed to teach and how the student needed to learn. From that, she taught me to focus my efforts on helping people understand rather than on what I wanted to tell them. She taught me how to hear, and it is the single most important skill in my professional success.” –Courtney Buechert, founder and CEO of creative marketing agency Eleven, Inc.