As the adult child of senior parents, we often find our roles reversed as we try to help our parents navigate the challenges of getting older. We find ourselves accompanying them to physician appointments, researching chronic health problems on line and worrying about our parents. Often we reach a point where we become concerned about our parents safety in living alone and we just aren’t sure what the next step is. How will I know when it’s time for my Mom to leave her home and move into assisted living?
We usually begin asking ourselves this question when we discover our Mom isn’t able to manage some part of her life in the same way she did previously. It might be that she isn’t eating well, forgetting to take her medications, has fallen at home, or is just lonely living alone. Whatever the issue that causes us to become concerned, there is an objective test that we can use to determine if it’s time to make the move. Below is a quick series of questions to ask yourself (or your Mom) to help make that determination:
YES NO Am I bored and lonely at times?
YES NO Does my social life revolve around the TV?
YES NO Is my circle of friends shrinking?
YES NO Could I use more exercise?
YES NO Is home maintenance a burden?
YES NO Do I avoid driving at night or should I stop driving?
YES NO Are housekeeping chores not as easy as they used to be?
YES NO Am I caring for a spouse and it’s wearing me out?
YES NO Am I eating poorly? Have my eating habits changed?
YES NO Am I eating alone?
YES NO Do I worry about needing help and not getting it in time?
YES NO Do I want to enjoy better health?
YES NO Am I relying on friends and family to do things for me?
YES NO Is it creating a burden for them?
YES NO Do I sometimes forget to take my medication?
If you or your Mom answered Yes to any of the questions above, it may be time to start looking at senior living options, especially assisted living. While it is stressful to bring up this topic, getting your Mom in a safe place where she can thrive will make your relationship better. Helping your Mom see that she isn’t giving up her independence, she is actually moving to a place where she can be more independent because she will have extra supports to help her. Almost 100% of senior adults moving into assisted living comment within the first week “I wish I’d done this sooner”!
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